Enjoy with your heart, but believe with your mind and keep your eyes open love was not intended to be blind and foolish. Let us enter the most important 9 questions you will need to ask before you walk down the aisle.
1. If both spouses have different views of what this implies the marriage won’t ever be managed effectively.
2. What does the union seem like to you and your fiancé? You’re deep in love and have an image in your mind of what the union will look like 5, 10 and 25 and years later on. Your fiancé also has anticipation of what the union will look like and how it will function. These expectations may be quite different so get them apparent early on.
3. You will need to always have this gorgeous story to reflect on and help refocus your own feelings.
4. What’s your purpose in the union? Getting married is much more about what you bring into the relationship than that which you could get from it. There’s a very particular set of motives that make you the ideal person for your partner. You will need to understand how being you and fulfilling your potential will add enormous value to your partner.
5. What’s the point of your spouse for a partner? However well together you think you are, your partner also has value to add that will make you a better person.
6. Who are you as a special person? You want to take the time to figure out who you are before attempting to become one with somebody else.
7. Who’s your fiancé as a unique unique person? Aside from enjoying who you are as a special person you will need to appreciate the uniqueness of your fiancé also.
8. What problems have you noticed? Love isn’t blind; love sees the very best and minimises the worst. Love lets you know that the issues didn’t keep you from falling in love. You still must acknowledge the issues and bring them into the light.
9. Frustration comes when expectations aren’t met. In marriage you’re most likely to blame your partner when these aren’t met.
Taking the time to answer these 9 simple questions may help save you from the pitfalls that have wrecked many couples. Reduce the probability of divorce by spending more time on questions like these and less on questions concerning the color of bridesmaids dresses, menus and flowers.