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Ask These Things Before You Walk Down The Aisle

Ask These Things Before You Walk Down The Aisle

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Enjoy with your heart, but believe with your mind and keep your eyes open love was not intended to be blind and foolish. Let us enter the most important 9 questions you will need to ask before you walk down the aisle.

1. If both spouses have different views of what this implies the marriage won’t ever be managed effectively.

2. What does the union seem like to you and your fiancé? You’re deep in love and have an image in your mind of what the union will look like 5, 10 and 25 and years later on. Your fiancé also has anticipation of what the union will look like and how it will function. These expectations may be quite different so get them apparent early on.

3. You will need to always have this gorgeous story to reflect on and help refocus your own feelings. Mims Bat Removal

4. What’s your purpose in the union? Getting married is much more about what you bring into the relationship than that which you could get from it. There’s a very particular set of motives that make you the ideal person for your partner. You will need to understand how being you and fulfilling your potential will add enormous value to your partner.

5. What’s the point of your spouse for a partner? However well together you think you are, your partner also has value to add that will make you a better person.

6. Who are you as a special person? You want to take the time to figure out who you are before attempting to become one with somebody else.

7. Who’s your fiancé as a unique unique person? Aside from enjoying who you are as a special person you will need to appreciate the uniqueness of your fiancé also.

8. What problems have you noticed? Love isn’t blind; love sees the very best and minimises the worst. Love lets you know that the issues didn’t keep you from falling in love. You still must acknowledge the issues and bring them into the light.

9. Frustration comes when expectations aren’t met. In marriage you’re most likely to blame your partner when these aren’t met.

Taking the time to answer these 9 simple questions may help save you from the pitfalls that have wrecked many couples. Reduce the probability of divorce by spending more time on questions like these and less on questions concerning the color of bridesmaids dresses, menus and flowers.

Slave To Your Brain?

Slave To Your Brain?

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I recently watched a presenter’s TED Chat titled “The key to want in a long-term relationship” that led me to ask this very question of myself. As the name suggests, this TED Chat was about long-term relationships and why so many modern marriages wind up failing. The speaker, a relationship therapist called Esther Perel, pointed out that modern-day couples frequently fail because they expect their spouse to meet two contrary human needs: the need for comfort and reliability and the need for novelty and excitement.

This invaluable insight made me realize just how much of our lives could be regarded as a quest for both of these states of mind. Sex, as an instance, is often known to be fueled by novelty. Gary B. Wilson’s popular book and site Your Brain on Porn, as an instance, explains how addiction to online pornography is actually an addiction to the dopamine rush one gets from locating a new video of attention. While it might appear easy to scoff at those addicted to online porn, this tendency is a microcosm of our society’s growing reliance on technology and the easy accessibility to dopamine spikes this permits. Those of you reading this report, ask yourselves: what motivation lies behind this act? The whole self-improvement motion is based around little dopamine rushes struck when one believes they have attained a “success.”

Prior to the invention of computers or smartphones allowed access to pornography, people got their fix elsewhere: playboy, sensual call facilities, peep-show booths, and Victoria’s Secret catalogues all attest to that. Sure, the ease of access now is unprecedented but it’s still the exact same story of the mind seeking out dopamine. In the 1950s Leave it to Beaver-esque presence, the archetypal small business man had to have his evening pipe, slippers, and paper. Is this not the image of dopamine seeking? Immediate gratification, relaxation, and novelty all rolled into a satisfying ritual.

Is there some value in that understanding? Should we attempt to counter this behaviour? Some believe this is the aim of religion. In the Middle Ages, as an instance, the Church played a very important role in controlling sexual knights who returned from Crusade with an insatiable appetite for killing, raping, and pillaging. Biologically, those knights were probably chasing a similar dopamine rush to “addicts” of all types now.

Many religions impose rules which work to suppress our unhealthy appetite for self-satisfaction, to be selfless, and care for others. The obvious caveat to this is that performing a “selfless” deed could become a different method of securing that exact same rush of positive feelings–and become a selfish act in itself. Believing that charity gets you into paradise is not any different than thinking that the slot-machine you’ve been playing will eventually “pay out.”

Naturally, philosophers and religious scholars will contend that selfless acts add into the world–that has a net positive impact. I don’t deny that. But my point here is that almost all of our lives are controlled by the need to feel “great” either by novelty or familiarity.

 

Are we self-serving addicts?
The response to the latter question is, in a true sense, yes. The majority of our lives are spent pursuing pleasure. However, that does not need to be a terrible thing. While it might be responsible for the continuing prevalence of Keeping up with the Kardashians, the human brain’s dopamine reward system is responsible for everything humans have generated that’s enchanting, glorious, divine, delicious, or just plain cool, in this world.

So, go ahead, indulge in some reality TV, sex, and chocolate and invite your mind because of its (self-interested) service.

 

Luck…Explained

Luck…Explained

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You know, because this has such a universal name in a feeling, I thought I’d write a “little treat” for my own readers. A treat that explains a frequently misunderstood aspect of reality which seems to occur by chance, but actually occurs by consciousness. I will explain the realities of fortune and earning attempt. I heave heard of fortune defined as preparation meeting opportunity, I concur with this. But, what I don’t agree with is the making of fortune appearing to be an outer force outside of ourselves and our comprehension of reality. Sure, people have unfortunate and lucky things happen to them, I won’t deny this, however, to an extent our realities are made through our attempts clear and not obvious.

In a sense, I do concur with the functions of Rhonda Byrne on “Cocoa Beach Raccoon Removal“, but a couple of elements are missing: like the individual growth of consciousness and truth before thoughts become things and not simply thoughts becoming things immediately. Truth is what we make it through our general consciousness really only, sure. But, it has to be developed in a patient, understanding and tolerant way realistically if the progression to such realities is slow or fast.

Really, we create real lasting fortune and fortune, genuine lasting luck and fortune doesn’t create us. Why do you believe lottery winnings with no consciousness behind them are lost and spent so fast or those who have it “too good” occasionally mess up so bad. We have to develop the understanding behind the fortune for the fortune to continue really.

Indeed, to put it mildly, fortune is a deliberate fact we create within ourselves, not something that only happens to us “fortunately” to place a logical spin on words which shows the reality of situations. Simple or Complex, this is the actual and honest truth about it all and it might appear slow, and drudgery to a, fast liberating from depending on outside forces to other people, but make not a single error. I know it applies to all in life, everything and existence. Winner or loser is a fact within our souls, souls, and minds, no less and no more. We are what we make ourselves to be through our consciousness.

 

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